Signs of Autism - Is my Child Autistic?

 Is My Child Autistic? Recognizing the Early Signs

For many parents, the thought that their child might be autistic comes with a mix of emotions—concern, confusion, and even relief at finally making sense of certain behaviours. Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) presents differently in every child, and the signs can be subtle, making it difficult to distinguish between neurodivergent traits and typical child development. If you're wondering whether your child might be autistic, here are some early indicators to look for.

Understanding Autism: What to Keep in Mind

Autism is a neurodevelopmental difference, not a disease or something to “fix.” Every autistic child has unique strengths and challenges. Some children show clear signs early, while others don’t receive a diagnosis until later. Recognizing signs early can help in getting the right support and understanding for your child.

Early Signs of Autism in Young Children

Autism signs can appear as early as infancy but often become more noticeable between ages 2 and 4. Here are some common indicators:

1. Social and Communication Differences

• Limited Eye Contact – Your child may avoid or struggle to maintain eye contact.

• Delayed Speech or Language Differences – Some autistic children may speak later than their peers, or they may develop speech and then lose words they previously used.

• Unusual Speech Patterns – Repeating phrases (echolalia), speaking in a monotone voice, or using advanced vocabulary while struggling with basic conversation.

• Lack of Gesturing – Rarely pointing, waving, or using other gestures to communicate.

• Prefers Playing Alone – May not engage in interactive play or show much interest in playing with other children.

• Difficulty Understanding Emotions – Struggles to recognize emotions in others or express their own.

2. Sensory Sensitivities

• Overreacts or Underreacts to Sensory Input – Sensitive to loud noises, bright lights, certain textures, or strong smells.

• Seeks Sensory Stimulation – May enjoy spinning, rocking, jumping, or other repetitive movements.

• Dislikes Certain Clothes or Foods – May refuse specific fabrics, tags, or textures of food.

3. Repetitive Behaviours & Special Interests

• Hand Flapping, Rocking, or Spinning – Engages in repetitive movements (stimming) for self-soothing or sensory regulation.

• Fixation on Specific Topics – Shows deep interest in a particular subject (e.g., dinosaurs, numbers, spinning objects) and may talk about it constantly.

• Strict Routines and Resistance to Change – Prefers predictable routines and may struggle with transitions or changes in plans.

4. Play and Imagination Differences

• Prefers Lining Up Toys Instead of Pretend Play – Arranges objects in patterns instead of using them imaginatively.

• Limited Interest in Role-Playing Games – May struggle to engage in “make-believe” activities that other children enjoy.

Could It Be Something Else?

Many of these signs can also appear in children who are not autistic. Speech delays, sensory sensitivities, and shyness can be part of normal development. Some children might have sensory processing differences or ADHD instead of (or alongside) autism. That’s why it’s important to look at patterns of behaviour over time rather than a single sign in isolation.

What Should You Do If You Recognize These Signs?

• Observe and Take Notes – Write down behaviours, concerns, and any patterns you notice.

• Talk to Your Child’s Paediatrician – Share your observations and discuss a possible referral for an autism assessment.

• Seek an Evaluation – A developmental paediatrician, psychologist, or autism specialist can assess your child’s strengths and challenges.

• Find Support – Whether your child receives a diagnosis or not, connecting with other parents and professionals can provide guidance and reassurance.

Final Thoughts

If you suspect your child may be autistic, remember: You are not alone. Many parents go through this same uncertainty. The goal isn’t to “label” your child but to better understand their unique needs and support them in a way that helps them thrive. Autism is not a limitation—it’s a different way of experiencing the world. With understanding and the right resources, your child can flourish.

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